Are you planning your first vacation as a couple? If so, there are some things you’re going to need to know. Vacations are known for either going amazingly well or terribly wrong. A lot of the outcome has to do with how well you planned your trip. And being that you’re reading this article, there’s a good chance you’re the one doing the planning. That said, this is a tricky subject. You don’t want to take the word ‘plan’ literally. What you really want is to plan activities while still being spontaneous. This might sound difficult, but it’s actually one of the few things in life that are easier done than said.
If you’re in love with your significant other and want your first vacation to act as a stepping stone, you’re going to need to be in the right frame of mind while you’re away. In other words, you’re going to want to be able to relax so you can enjoy it. To better your odds of this taking place, you need to plan correctly. Let’s look at an example. Say your first vacation is going to be to San Diego. This is a great choice because the weather is almost always good, which allows for more activities. Your first step is to go online and search for ‘tourist activities in San Diego.’ Make a list of all the activities, but don’t plan on doing each one on specific days. This is where spontaneity comes into play. You will have a long list of potential activities, as well as what operating hours and details, but the time you visit won’t be set in stone. You’re on vacation. Take it day by day. See what the weather is like in the morning and chat about what you want to do over breakfast.
If you’re a man, then there’s another fine line you should be aware of. Women like it when you’re in control. That said, they don’t want you to be controlling. In other words, be decisive, but not stubborn. Get a feel for what she wants to do and then go in that direction. If she can’t decide, you decide, but get a read on her level of interest and trust your gut. Sometimes women will do what you want simply so they don’t upset you. Even if this is the case and you’re not sure about what she wants, you can still turn a boring event into a fun one. For instance, if a walk through Balboa Park seems boring, pick a flower for her. Better yet, take your shoes off and put your feet in a fountain while looking out over the Pacific Ocean. This will be slightly daring yet somewhat romantic at the same time. If you want to impress a woman, there’s no better combination.
There is one more thing you should consider. When you go on vacation, you’re often in a foreign place. A surprise will be completely unexpected. Whether you secretly order Chinese food to be delivered to the beach during a beautiful sunset, or you take her on a surprise cruise around Coronado Island, something unexpected can go a long way. And it will always be remembered.
When looking at the trip as a whole, your number one goal should be to stay active. If you’re both sitting around at the pool reading books every day, it’s not going to be a very memorable experience. Do something to separate yourself from the everyday guy (or gal). Do your best to mix adventure, romance, and spontaneity into one. If you succeed, there’s an excellent chance you will be spending many more vacations together. Always remember, live and love.