A long distance relationship is certainly not the ideal scenario for couples, but sometimes life gets in the way of the best laid plans. Work, school, and other commitments can force couples to live apart for months to years at a time. Despite the common warnings, maintaining a long distance relationship is not an impossible feat as long as the both of you are prepared to work hard at your relationship. Best of all, once you reunite, your relationship will be stronger for your efforts. Here are some tips to help you and your love one not just cope but also thrive:
Maintain as many lines of communication as possible. Luckily, recent advances in technology offer a variety of cheap and easy ways to communicate across any distance. The obvious standby is the telephone – calling cards, long distance land lines, and cell phones make it easy to remain just a dial away. Computer and internet technologies, however, broaden the scope further. Instant message and chat programs allow you to interact with your honey in real time. You can also share pictures, videos, websites, and many other things across this medium. Webcams, coupled with internet voice programs like Skype, can also allow you to actually see each other across these long distances. This sight will allow you to enjoy and deepen your conversations with your partner, even making it seem like he or she is actually there!
How often should you communicate? This depends on your relationship. Some people need to talk more than once a day, others can go a few days without constant communication. Do what’s best for you and your sweetheart.
It’s not so simple, however, as calling or texting your loved one once in awhile, though. This is not simply an exercise in communication for communication’s sake – there has to be a point to this connection. In other words, your conversations need to be meaningful. Obviously, some of them can be fun and breezy, but you need to make sure that the lines for true communication are left open. If something is bothering you, you should feel comfortable sharing it with your partner, and vice versa. If a problem, worry, or fear festers, it could explode at a later date and threaten the relationship. In the end, without trust, your relationship will suffer, so make sure to preserve it as much as possible.
One great way to foster the bond between you is to engage in mutual activities. Again, the internet allows you to do much more across long distances than was possible even a decade ago. The obvious activities include online games, movies, and websites (like forums and blogs), but think creatively. Perhaps you can work on a novel or screenplay together, or build an online business, or create a photo album of your favorite memories online. Whatever your idea, make sure it is something you both enjoy contributing to and something that leads to a final product. Having a tangible goal that both of you can work towards can help you forget the distance and instead focus on what’s important – your shared commitment to each other.
Couples should also send each other physical reminders of their love. Ideas include flowers, little gifts, hand written cards, his or her favorite food or movie, or anything else that your partner would like. These work best when your partner receives these gifts as a surprise, because he or she then knows that you are thinking about him or her, and it could brighten an otherwise dreary day.
This is the most important aspect of your relationship to maintain – your shared vision of the future. Eventually you will be reunited, and you need to both know what that means and how your lives will change. Whether you’re planning to move in together, get married, have a child, or whatever, talk about and plan your future goals. This will allow you to think less about your present state and more about your future bliss.