It is common knowledge that relationships are hard work. But, what specifically can one do to make a partnership last? A healthy relationship takes work from both partners, and requires continuous effort to keep the relationship fresh and alive. Finding a partner is hard enough, but to keep them around, heed the following advice:
1. Communication is key. If you are unable to sit and exchange ideas and the feelings behind them, then there is no foundation for a solid, equally footed relationship. If there is something on your mind, and you don’t express it fully, it is usually repressed for a time, and manifests in other, passive aggressive, or hurtful ways. This will aid in avoiding holding grudges, as well as projecting personal issues on your partner. But, while communication is necessary, it must be approached in an open, and safe mentality. Spewing out whatever is on your mind may hurt your partner unnecessarily. Formulate what you’re going to say in a respectful tone, and most importantly, back up what you say with your actions. With ever conversation, there is a speaker and a listener. But remember, it’s not a monologue. You need two to tango.
2. Honesty is policy. Without honesty, the established rapport is pointless. The foundation you build through communication will be weak and dangerous if that communication contains holes or cracks. The truth is golden, and deserved by a loved on, whether in a romantic, familial, or platonic relationship. Love is earned through trust, and trust is gained by being honest. Even white lies are suggested to be avoided. While they may ease temporary pain, they will usually backfire. Also, white lies lead way to other lies; it is a slippery slope.
3. Trust is a must. With the honest communication, trust is built between partners. Everyone has been hurt before, and everyone is scared of repeating the process. But, trust is necessary to let your partner know you have faith in them. They need breathing room, the same as you do, and you must trust their actions will reflect their words when they’re not with you. Suspicion often leads to jealousy, or obsession, so when trust is lacking, other forms of negative energy seep into the relationship. When trust is lost, you must give it time to rebuild, and be earned. And then keep to it; once trust is regained, it is regained.
4. R-E-S-P-E-C-T. And not just a little bit. Mutual respect between partners is crucial for a healthy and successful relationship. You are two separate entities, and will naturally have differing opinions on a variety of subjects of a range of importance, from political policy to how you like your eggs. Having differing opinions is healthy, but you must respect your partner’s opinions, and value them for their contribution to a lively and exciting relationship.
5. Dependability matters. A sense of security must be present to have a safe relationship. If you say you are going to do something, then do it. It’s actions that count when communicating your true feelings, rather than words. If you are reliable, and responsible, that shows a maturity and willingness to make things work, even in tough times. This includes matters of personal sacrifice, on the parts of both partners. If you feel secure in your relationship, then going through a tough time in life or in your career seems manageable. A dependable relationship can inspire a feeling of hope for the future, which is vital for any relationship.
With these five tips, as well as love, and a willingness to be loved, you can have a successful relationship.