Couples rarely put as much effort into their marriages as they do in other aspects of their life, such as their education and their career. Marriages need to be maintained regularly to keep them fresh, exciting and a positive part of everyday life. Small gestures and occasional displays of romance and affection can help to keep the spark and excitement as much a part of marriage as it was in the very beginning of the relationship.
There is no question that it is easy to get stuck in a rut with your marriage. The trials and tribulations of day to day life can put a serious damper on the flirtatious and romantic sides of the best of us. Let’s face it; it is tough to get in the mood with your partner when the walk to the bedroom includes stepping on Legos and tripping over gaming consoles on the way. No one said it would be easy to keep the fire alive, but a little effort can certainly go a long way.
Date night is a great way to get close with your spouse again when the relationship is turning a bit stale. Sure, it sounds clichéd, but it really does work if you do it the right way. Whether it is on a weekly or monthly schedule, make sure that you both make the time commitment to keep these happening on a regular basis. You would be amazed at how much you will find yourself looking forward to the event as the date approaches. Be careful not to allow date night to become stale and mundane, however, as that will completely nullify the intended benefit. Go out of town to eat in a fancy new restaurant, get a hotel room for a night, go to see a show together or do something else that you both enjoy. Don’t do the same thing over and over again or it will quickly lose its luster.
Be a little daring and try to spice things up in the bedroom if you want immediate resolution for a stale marriage. Try something new and kinky that is outside of the normal routine. Sexy lingerie, introduction of some toys and role playing can all add a new level of excitement to your love life. You would be amazed at how much of a difference a little variety in the bedroom can make in regards to keeping your relationship fresh and exciting.
Don’t forget the little things that take little effort but can make a tremendous impact. Try slipping a love note into your partner’s purse or briefcase so they have a sweet, surprise reminder of how much you love them. Send some flowers to the office or surprise them at lunchtime one day. Surprise your spouse with a romantic candlelight dinner one evening. If you are feeling extra saucy, get a room at a cheap motel and indulge in a little afternoon delight. Few things will put a smile on your face for the rest of the workday like an erotic lunch rendezvous.
People tend to take their partners for granted after having been married for a prolonged period of time. Often time, couples get comfortable with their partners and stop doing all of the little things that helped get them to the point of wanting to spend the rest of their lives with them in the first place. The end result of this lack of attentiveness is a stale and boring relationship. Dedicating a small amount of time and effort to the one you love can go a long way towards ensuring a long, healthy and happy marriage.