Not everybody is born with confidence. When I was a kid, I was shorter than everybody else in my class, I had crooked teeth and I was shy. I wasn’t a stranger to teasing or mocking and was called “brace-face” until my sophomore year of high school. By college, I was a different story. I was taller, my teeth were straight and I wasn’t as shy as I was before. I had begun to gain the inner confidence that I needed to become a more rounded person.
There are numerous ways of bringing yourself around. You can change your behavior, you can do mental exercises, but it’s all null until you get to the root of the problem. That root is the key to everything. That root is the inner confidence. Here are a couple of things to give you that boost you need
1) Know Your Value
What you know you’re good at is a great way to find inner confidence. You find these deep inside of you. They are the core of who you are. Start asking yourself questions. If you had a thousand dollars to spare, would you give some of it to charity? Do you hold your family in high regards? Would you drop everything if a friend was in need?

Now ask yourself the flipside of these questions. Why do some thing make you angry? Do you always have to have the last word in an argument? Why can some people make you feel like jumping off a roof and you can brush the criticisms of others away like it’s nothing?

Is this because some of your value is being overlooked or censored? More than likely, you let some people push all the right buttons. Start by learning how to brush off the views of those people. Know that you’re not what they think; you’re what you think.

2) Be At Ease With Your Faults

We all spend a lot of time digging for the signs that we’re doing what we’re supposed to be doing. We crave approval from others because it makes us feel good about ourselves. What we need to do is feel at ease with what is out of our control and what aren’t so great at. It’s okay to ask for help when we need it. It doesn’t make us a worse person.

We all make mistakes and life goes on. So, ask yourself what it would be like to be okay with yourself even if you fail. Would you know deep down that you’re still a great person? Knowing that you’re faults don’t define you is a key to inner confidence.

3) Train Yourself

Confidence is like a sport. You can’t just wake up one day and slam down a killer serve at Wimbledon. You must practice and as the days go by, you will find it easier and easier to live your life with the trust that you’re making good decisions. Like any other training, you will have to take this in strides and work your way up. Eventually, you will find that taking risks in your social and professional life will become easier and easier. The more you work at it, the more that you will realize how much potential lies within.