So, it’s Friday night and you’re at a friend’s house for a party. The music is blaring and you’re having a great time. You look over your shoulder and the same girl has been checking you out all night. If you’re like most guys, you don’t feel comfortable just walking up to a girl and having a conversation. This is called approach anxiety. This might be the number one reason that most guys never meet the girl that they want to. The bad news is that it’s not fun trying to get over it. The good news is that you can. Overcoming approach anxiety and flirting with a girl that you like doesn’t have to be a trial by fire situation. Here are a couple of things to help you get over this debilitating condition.
Many people believe that flirting is something that you inherit. They think that it’s something you’re born with, something that can’t be taught. This is simply not the case. The art of flirty is something that can be mastered by just about anybody. It takes practice, but is a great skill that can be applied to all aspects of life. Everyone has a different style to flirting and not all methods work for everybody. Here some basics to help you out.
The first think you should remember is that this can be done by everyone. There aren’t any specific groups of people that can only do it. It helps if you’re attractive, but you don’t have to be Brad Pitt. You don’t have to be the smartest or most athletic, you just to learn how to bring out the great qualities you possess. Let them out and watch as others begin to pick up on them. Knowing your best qualities are essential for flirting. You use them as basis for confidence.
But how do you let others know that you’re a great person without looking like a jerk? This is where the art comes into the art of flirting. Have you looked around a room feeling bored by the situation you were in and saw somebody that brightened up your mood? Did your heart start to beat faster? Did your mind start to wonder if they were attached to somebody? If so, then the person you were looking at was conveying confidence and fun from an indirect level. They were letting the whole room know that they were a good person by simply being themselves.
Flirting incorporates a lot of different looks and gazes. If you are in public and are just trying to catch the eyes of a beautiful woman, try making eye contact with them and looking at them for about a second longer than you would normally. This is a great method as it quickly conveys that you’re interested in talking to them. You don’t want to scare them away though. Don’t lurk, just look.
Another great tip is body language. If you’re standing in the corner of the room with your arms crossed, you are in a protective stance. You want to show that you’re open to communication. Try standing with your arms open and your drink to your side. Don’t hold it up to face as it conveys that you’re trying to hide something.
Touching is good, but must be done with caution. Try touching their arm or brushing your leg against theirs briefly. You don’t want to come off as a creep. Flirting is a combo of conveying your intentions while reading signals put off by somebody else. The combination of these two things is a great foundation for inner confidence in yourself.
