Romantic Handbook
Archive for March, 2010
Keys for a Successful Relationship
It is common knowledge that relationships are hard work. But, what specifically can one do to make a partnership last? A healthy relationship takes work from both partners, and requires continuous effort to keep the relationship fresh and alive. Finding a partner is hard enough, but to keep them around, heed the following advice:
I Think I’m in an Unhealthy Relationship-What Can I Do to Fix It?
Unhealthy relationships can take many different forms, and there are also many different strategies for improving them. The difficult thing about improving relationships is that they involve two people, and in order for a relationship to improve, usually both people have to be involved and committed to the relationship’s improvement. However, there are some preliminary things you can do first as an individual to gain some clarity and make yourself feel better about the situation.
What Jealousy Is And How To Overcome It In A Relationship
In order to overcome a thing like jealousy, you have to understand what it is and what it isn’t. There are different levels of jealousy, and not all of them are necessarily bad. Jealousy is a basic human emotion, and the first thing you need to figure out is what type of jealousy you are feeling.
The first of three basic types of jealous feelings is a harmless jealousy. This type of jealousy is almost considered cute because it is little more than a concern for your significant other. It can be anything from their mentioning an attraction to someone they see or meet to expressing concern about them going to someplace like a strip club with friends. Think of this type of jealousy as a window into the mind of your significant other.
The second type of jealousy is more of a healthy jealousy. It is a feeling of protectiveness for your significant other and an expression of that concern. You may have concerns about them going out with friends that include an ex or someone they’ve shown they an attraction. It’s fine to express these concerns so long as you don’t do it in a possessive or paranoid fashion.
This leads us to the third and final of the basic types of jealousy. This is an obsessive or possessive jealousy, and it is unhealthy for any relationship. This jealousy can often lead to a destructive and possibly violent end to a relationship if it goes too far or too long. Aggression and violence are often the end result, and your significant other can’t even look at someone that they might be attracted to without possibly setting you off.
This last form of jealousy is the hardest to overcome unless it is dealt with in the early stages. If you feel yourself getting to the point of feeling a paranoid jealousy, it’s time for some self reflection. That’s right. Looking inside yourself is the only way that you are going to overcome these feelings of jealousy and save your relationship.
You see, jealousy is not really about the emotion itself or what may have brought it on in the first place. More often than not, the jealousy has nothing to do with your significant other except to be the trigger for your feelings.
One of the first things that you should do is find a quiet place where you can be alone and ask yourself some honest questions. Ask yourself why you are feeling threatened, what you are afraid will happen, and what it is that you are afraid of. Answer yourself honestly.
If you give yourself honest answers you should begin to see that it has nothing to do with your significant other. It has everything to do with the emotions inside of you. Jealousy is really nothing more than a symptom of a larger issue in your life. It can be anything from trust issues resulting from past relationships to a lack of self-esteem that makes you afraid that they will cheat on you.
It’s only in facing the larger issues involved and making the decision to change the way you feel that you will be able to overcome the feelings of jealousy in your relationship. The last thing that you should do is try to bury your feelings as though they don’t exist. This is the unhealthiest choice you could make. Think of it as a cancer. If you bury and try to ignore it, it will just fester and eat away at you until it can’t be ignored anymore. Face your fears and overcome them.
Chivalry is Not Dead
The medical condition of chivalry is something you hear discussed quite frequently in modern times. Is it living and well? Deceased? Flitting in an out of some sort of extremely gentlemanly coma? If I may put in my two cents, I would say that my answer to the question is yes, it does yet have some breath left in it, but this is a qualified answer. The most apparent problem to me is not the disagreement over whether it still exists, but that so few people seem to understand what it actually is, and have their own rather distorted ideas of what the word means. So, let’s clear a few things up.
Fliting- What is Your Body Saying About You?
Most of us already know what flirting is, but how many know just how much our own body is saying when we flirt or don’t flirt? Just like a normal conversation between friends, much of our communicating is done without words at all. Our body is sending messages to each other in the form of body language. We use these non-verbal cues or signs every day even if we don’t realize it.
Now, there has been a lot written on body language and flirting, and we aren’t going to cover it all here. We’re just going to cover some of the basic and more common ways that we flirt with our body language. Having even just a basic understanding of body language in flirting can be a big advantage, and it can give tell you how well things are really going on a date.
One of the most common and also one of the most misunderstood signs that we give off is the smile. The smile can be everything from an insincere show in order to be nice to a warm and loving smile that seems to light up the room. We all prefer the warm and friendly smile; because it’s a sign of good feelings and that you are fun to be around. It’s relaxing and shows that things are going well or that there is interest there. It can also be a sign of someone just being polite and not really enjoying themselves or your company. None of us really want this in flirting, but how do we spot it? One way is to ask if the smile reaches the eyes. If the person’s eyes don’t soften with the smile, then it is likely that they are just being polite.
Another of the more common ways that body language is used in flirting is in the approach. What this means is how you or they approach your personal space. If the approach is slower and more relaxed, it’s a sign that they are interested and want to get closer to you. On the other hand, if they approach and come into your personal space more quickly, then they are more aggressive. It’s still a sign of interest, but it’s up to you if you pursue things any further.
How a person carries themselves or ‘poses’ can say a lot about their level of interest. How they hold their arms can tell you if they are interested or not with just a glance. If their arms are crossed, it tends to mean that they aren’t welcoming an approach. Crossing your arms is usually a sign of closing yourself off and telling those around you that you would rather they stay away from you. Just the opposite of that, opened or relaxed arms are a general way of saying that an approach will be welcomed. It doesn’t promise anything, but it does say that you aren’t closed to the possibilities of a conversation.
Touching is the last sign that we will cover here. Any time that you initiate physical contact with a touch, it should be light and relaxed at least until you know how the other person is going to receive it. This makes it one of the most difficult ways of showing interest when you are flirting with someone, but it can also be the most revealing. How far you go with touching is entirely up to you.
There are a lot more ways that body language is used in flirting every day. All it takes is some practice understanding these, and you are well on your way.
What Women Really Want – Confidence
Not everybody is born with confidence. When I was a kid, I was shorter than everybody else in my class, I had crooked teeth and I was shy. I wasn’t a stranger to teasing or mocking and was called “brace-face” until my sophomore year of high school. By college, I was a different story. I was taller, my teeth were straight and I wasn’t as shy as I was before. I had begun to gain the inner confidence that I needed to become a more rounded person.
There are numerous ways of bringing yourself around. You can change your behavior, you can do mental exercises, but it’s all null until you get to the root of the problem. That root is the key to everything. That root is the inner confidence. Here are a couple of things to give you that boost you need
1) Know Your Value
What you know you’re good at is a great way to find inner confidence. You find these deep inside of you. They are the core of who you are. Start asking yourself questions. If you had a thousand dollars to spare, would you give some of it to charity? Do you hold your family in high regards? Would you drop everything if a friend was in need?
The Fastest Way to Meet Local Singles
It doesn’t matter if you are shy or a social butterfly, there are many ways to meet local singles fast no matter where you live. Test out these options and see if you are successful in finding that special someone in your own home town.
Top Qualities In Attracting Women
Nobody said that being a man is easy. For the most part, women hold all of the power in most of the situations that we run across everyday. For women, meeting guys isn’t hard. Men love a woman that is aggressive. We love women that throw caution to the wind and start a conversation with us. But it’s different for women. It doesn’t matter how attractive a woman is, she will always have guys chasing after her.
Starting Conversations with Women
Have you ever seen a women that you wanted to talk to, and just weren’t quite sure how to go about it? Half of the world’s population are women. There are a plethora of interesting and attractive women out there, but you’ll never know any of them if you don’t start somewhere. But, speaking with women is not an impossible task, as long as you have the right approach. To learn to start conversations with women, try the following tips:
Just Like Rome, Trust Isn’t Built in a Day
Ahhh, trust, the key ingredient to any successful and sizzling romantic relationship. Many couples desire trust in a relationship, yet have a very difficult time reaching a solid level of trust. Why is trust sometimes so difficult to achieve? How can it be built in a relationship? The key to understanding how to build trust, is to understand that it takes actual work. This article will outline some fun and easy ways, that also take a bit of work, in order to establish trust and make your romantic relationship hot, sizzling, and above all, solid.